I didn’t come by my appreciation for technology naturally. In fact, some might say I was genetically predisposed against it.

I didn’t grow up in a house that was particularly cutting-edge when it came to the newest technology. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t that we didn’t enjoy our 8-track tape player and our Pong, it’s just that these things all required a certain level of mechanical ability, and those tasksusually the domain of the man in the housedidn’t fall on the list of my father’s favorite things. Anything with the words “some assembly required” printed on the box was to be avoided at all cost.
I remember when we got our first VCR (for the Barristers, let me explainthat’s an acronym for “video cassette recorder,” a primitive form of technology we used to watch a movie at home, before the DVD was invented). The excitement that was in the air at noon when my dad brought home the box was but a distant memory by 7 or 8 p.m. No hope of watching a movie that night or, for that matter, being able to tell the time by the front of the VCR. “Oh well,” my father sighed in frustration, “it will be right in six months.”

My mother’s mechanical abilities far exce- eded those of my father. My mother and I once spent the better part of an entire weekend assembling a reproduction of a suit of armor that had been given to my parents by a client. It arrived in a box that contained dozens of pieces, large and small, and my mother and I put the entire thing together ourselves. Of course, my dad supervised and, thanks to his frequent observations and suggestions, we didn’t have any parts left over when we finished. Carlos is still with usmy steadfast tin soldier, standing guard in my living room, a living and breathing testament to my technological and mechanical abilities. (OK, he’s not really living, I know that …but he gets presents at Christmas and a costume on Halloween, and since he never rolls his eyes at us or asks for anything, he is often the most-beloved member of our household).

Despite any aversion to technology I might have observed growing up, I was fortunate to have come of age in the Age of Technology. For my generation, the use of technology turned from an option into a requirement, both in school and beyond. As a freshman in college in the early 1980s, it was still big news when someone in my dorm got a computer, and I was thrilled with my first onea Tandy 1000 from Radio Shack that I got for Christmas. It got me through a few years of college, and would probably be worth far more today as a collectible than it ever was as a computer! Today it would be unthinkable to send a child off to college without a laptop, fully equipped with all measure of technology that I couldn’t have envisioned while working away on my Tandy 1000.

So with this questionable upbringing and immersion into technology, it might surprse you to learn that I am making technology the focus of my year as president. I owe thanks to my husband, Andrew, for helping me to not only learn about, but also appre- ciate, the various electronic and computing technologies we have today. Andrew’s tech- nological abilities come naturally to him, and he has used them to make a living for the last 20 years or so. Andrew never met a computer or piece of electronics he didn’t like, or couldn’t figure out how to use. In that respect, I didn’t marry my father, who only half-jokingly referred to the Yellow Pages as his toolbox.

When it has come to televisions, flat screen monitors, DVRs, wireless networ- king and countless other home and business technologies, over the years our family, thanks to Andrew, has become the Joneses in the neighborhood that you have to keep up with. It’s become my duty to balk at first, question the necessity, complain about the cost and wrinkle my nose at the instructions on use, and then a few short days later ponder how we ever lived without it.
My thoughts about what I would like to accomplish during my year as President overlapped with a major IT upgrade in my office. This started me thinking about how some of what I wanted to do at my firm could also be employed by the VCBA and, thanks to the creative energy and technological know-how from my husband, I decided to use an IT upgrade at the VCBA as a way to achieve some of the greater goals the organization hopes to achieve.
The starting point is a new website. The Bar underwent the first major redesign of its website during my first term on the VCBA board, in 2005, during Don Hurley’s presidency. I recall the board and bar leaders receiving an introduction to the redesign process, and looking at other state bar websites around the state. The process was fairly collaborative, and the redesign was developed within the standard of the time. Namely, it became the depository of information about the bar association, and visitors would go there to find out about the barits sections and committees, the upcoming events, local rules and practice, and the people serving as current directors or section leaders.
Most, if not all, of the information deposited onto the 2005 website is still there, along with some regular updates that have kept our calendar current, and the most “recent issue of Citations on the home page [Back issues may also be found on the websiteed.]. The current site is packed with information, much of it useful and relevant, and just about any question one may have about the bar can be found there
The challenge is that wethe “we” who consume this technologyhave become very savvy about how we use it. And when we seek it out, we are using it differently than before. For example, rather than just “surf” the web for fun or general information purposes, people are visiting particular sites for very particular reasons. If someone wants information about the Ventura County Bar Association, the first place they go will be our website, and they will want to know particular things about us. I want to deliver on their expectations, and it can’t be done with the current site which, judging against 2010 technology standards, is a bit of a dinosaurnot as much as my Tandy 1000 would be today, but deserving of an upgrade.
Thanks to the hard work of our IT committee, our fearless leader Steve Henderson, and my talented other half, we are close to unveiling the new site. I think you will find it to be more intuitive, easier to navigate, and generally more representative of the organization as a whole.
I have other goals in mind for the bar when it comes to technology this year, and the new website is just a starting point. In fact, many of us today don’t go to a website at all for our informationwe expect it to come to us, via a blog post, a Facebook update, or a ‘Tweet’ from a friend or colleague. My hope is that people who expect to get their information about the bar through those kinds of social media outlets will be doing so by the end of this year.
But I’m getting ahead of myself. Twitter? Facebook? Blogs? These are words that weren’t even in the vocabulary during my DOS days. I wonder what my Dad would think of all this technology? I’ll go ask Carlos what he thinks.

I didn’t come by my appreciation for technology naturally. In fact, some might say I was genetically predisposed against it.

I didn’t grow up in a house that was particularly cutting-edge when it came to the newest technology. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t that we didn’t enjoy our 8-track tape player and our Pong, it’s just that these things all required a certain level of mechanical ability, and those tasks – usually the domain of the man in the house – didn’t fall on the list of my father’s favorite things. Anything with the words “some assembly required” printed on the box was to be avoided at all cost.

I remember when we got our first VCR (for the Barristers, let me explain – that’s an acronym for “video cassette recorder,” a primitive form of technology we used to watch a movie at home, before the DVD was invented). The excitement that was in the air at noon when my dad brought home the box was but a distant memory by 7 or 8 p.m. No hope of watching a movie that night or, for that matter, being able to tell the time by the front of the VCR. “Oh well,” my father sighed in frustration, “it will be right in six months.”

My mother’s mechanical abilities far exce- eded those of my father. My mother and I once spent the better part of an entire weekend assembling a reproduction of a suit of armor that had been given to my parents by a client. It arrived in a box that contained dozens of pieces, large and small, and my mother and I put the entire thing together ourselves. Of course, my dad supervised and, thanks to his frequent observations and suggestions, we didn’t have any parts left over when we finished. Carlos is still with us – my steadfast tin soldier, standing guard in my living room, a living and breathing testament to my technological and mechanical abilities. (OK, he’s not really living, I know that …but he gets presents at Christmas and a costume on Halloween, and since he never rolls his eyes at us or asks for anything, he is often the most-beloved member of our household).

Despite any aversion to technology I might have observed growing up, I was fortunate to have come of age in the Age of Technology.

For my generation, the use of technology turned from an option into a requirement, both in school and beyond. As a freshman in college in the early 1980s, it was still big news when someone in my dorm got a computer, and I was thrilled with my first one – a Tandy 1000 from Radio Shack that I got for Christmas. It got me through a few years of college, and would probably be worth far more today as a collectible than it ever was as a computer! Today it would be unthinkable to send a child off to college without a laptop, fully equipped with all measure of technology that I couldn’t have envisioned while working away on my Tandy 1000.

So with this questionable upbringing and immersion into technology, it might surpri- se you to learn that I am making technolo- gy the focus of my year as president. I owe thanks to my husband, Andrew, for helping me to not only learn about, but also appre- ciate, the various electronic and computing technologies we have today. Andrew’s tech- nological abilities come naturally to him, and he has used them to make a living for the last 20 years or so. Andrew never met a computer or piece of electronics he didn’t like, or couldn’t figure out how to use. In that respect, I didn’t marry my father, who only half-jokingly referred to the Yellow Pages as his toolbox.

When it has come to televisions, flat screen monitors, DVRs, wireless networ- king and countless other home and business technologies, over the years our family, thanks to Andrew, has become the Joneses in the neighborhood that you have to keep up with. It’s become my duty to balk at first, question the necessity, complain about the cost and wrinkle my nose at the instructions on use, and then a few short days later ponder how we ever lived without it.

My thoughts about what I would like to accomplish during my year as President overlapped with a major IT upgrade in my office. This started me thinking about how some of what I wanted to do at my firm could also be employed by the VCBA and, thanks to the creative energy and technological know-how from my husband, I decided to use an IT upgrade at the VCBA as a way to achieve some of the greater goals the organization hopes to achieve.

The starting point is a new website. The Bar underwent the first major redesign of its website during my first term on the VCBA board, in 2005, during Don Hurley’s presidency. I recall the board and bar leaders receiving an introduction to the redesign process, and looking at other state bar websites around the state. The process was fairly collaborative, and the redesign was developed within the standard of the time. Namely, it became the depository of information about the bar association, and visitors would go there to find out about the bar – its sections and committees, the upcoming events, local rules and practice, and the people serving as current directors or section leaders.

Most, if not all, of the information deposited onto the 2005 website is still there, along with some regular updates that have kept our calendar current, and the most “recent issue of Citations on the home page [Back issues may also be found on the website – ed.]. The current site is packed with information, much of it useful and relevant, and just about any question one may have about the bar can be found there

The challenge is that we – the “we” who consume this technology – have become very savvy about how we use it. And when we seek it out, we are using it differently than before. For example, rather than just “surf” the web for fun or general information purposes, people are visiting particular sites for very particular reasons. If someone wants information about the Ventura County Bar Association, the first place they go will be our website, and they will want to know particular things about us. I want to deliver on their expectations, and it can’t be done with the current site which, judging against 2010 technology standards, is a bit of a dinosaur – not as much as my Tandy 1000 would be today, but deserving of an upgrade.

Thanks to the hard work of our IT committee, our fearless leader Steve Henderson, and my talented other half, we are close to unveiling the new site. I think you will find it to be more intuitive, easier to navigate, and generally more representative of the organization as a whole.

I have other goals in mind for the bar when it comes to technology this year, and the new website is just a starting point. In fact, many of us today don’t go to a website at all for our information – we expect it to come to us, via a blog post, a Facebook update, or a ‘Tweet’ from a friend or colleague. My hope is that people who expect to get their information about the bar through those kinds of social media outlets will be doing so by the end of this year.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. Twitter? Facebook? Blogs? These are words that weren’t even in the vocabulary during my DOS days. I wonder what my Dad would think of all this technology? I’ll go ask Carlos what he thinks.

“Oh my gosh, what are you going to write about every month?!” Those were the words my sister chose to congratulate me when I announced to her that I had accepted the nomination to serve as Secretary/Treasurer of the Ventura County Bar Association and would, a couple of years after that, serve as President. I must admit, that wasn’t the first thing that occurred to me when I was approached about being President, but as I thought about, I discovered that the prospect didn’t panic me near as much as the tone of my sister’s voice suggested.

The way I see it, when it comes to this monthly column, there are some automatics. The first (nice to meet you, how are you doing, here’s all about me), the last (thanks to everyone for making my job as President so effortless, couldn’t have done it without you), the milestone events that should be properly recognized (Law Day 5K, the Annual Dinner, my birthday), and the occasional month, bound to happen over the summer, where I will ask someone who, much like me, can’t easily say no (“Hey, I’ve had this great idea for my column next month, and thought you might like to be the guest columnist!!)

Not to mention the wealth of examples I have to follow – a plethora of columns from former Bar presidents. The topics of monthly columns are as diverse as the people who have held this office over the years. Over my memory, our past presidents have delighted and informed us with stories

of their travels, their love for cars and wine, their well-deserved and hard-fought legal victories, news and topics of the day, and a varied assortment of tidbits, cheerleading and musings, along with an occasional soapbox moment or two. This column is also one of the best venues to highlight the many volunteer opportunities available to us to serve our community, and those who have selflessly donated their time and talents to countless non-profit organizations.

Your immediate past president has set the bar very high, and has produced columns that have been among some of the most varied, entertaining and well-written I have seen over the years. Readers, I feel an obligation to tell you right up front, in my very first column, that if you expect my columns to read like those of Tony Strauss, you will be sorely disappointed. On the upside, you shouldn’t need to keep a thesaurus next to you when you read mine.

So, my first column–one of the automatics.

I am virtually a Ventura County native, having moved to Camarillo when I was 7 years old. Many of you who have practiced law in the county for a long time will remember my parents, Phil and Grace Cohen, who practiced law together in Camarillo. Law wasn’t the immediate career choice for either of my parents. My father, born in England, was a musician. After serving in the Royal Air Force in World War II, he played clarinet and saxophone for big bands, and traveled the country. My mother met him in post-war London, where she was working for the American embassy. When they met, my father was the owner of a nightclub, playing host to a variety of friends, family and musicians. Playing host was a talent both my parents had in spades, and which they enjoyed throughout their lives – those among you of a particular age will remember their annual Christmas parties at our house, at which they welcomed a large variety of friends – lawyers, judges and other professionals, along with loads of

friends, not only of theirs, but also of my sister and me. Those parties are no doubt remembered fondly by many.

After my parents married and moved to Southern California, my father worked during the day and attended law school in the evening. My mother worked as a legal secretary, and by the mid-1960s they had two children, my older sister, Melissa, and me. My father began practicing law in Ventura County in the early 1960s as part of the County Counsel’s office which, at the time, was newly formed, having been spun-off from the District Attorney’s office. Shortly after we moved to the county, my dad opened his own practice in Camarillo, and my mom was his secreta – er, well, OK, she ran the office. After many years of working next to attorneys in what was a hugely male-dominated profession, my mother decided to go to law school herself. She would tell us that she decided to become a lawyer because she thought she “could do as good a job as any of the men.” She was right. She worked with my dad during the day, attended Ventura College of Law at night, and after she got admitted to practice, “Cohen and Cohen, A Law Corporation” was born.

My parents built up a successful law practice together in Camarillo. My mother specialized in family law, but also did a fair amount of estate planning and probate; my father had a general civil practice, and in later years did work in the federal courts. As kids, my sister and I would hang out in the office, and my first job was emptying the trash cans after school and before whatever activity I was on my way to. In addition to their busy law practice, my parents were always involved in any number of civic organizations – the Rotary Club, the Boys & Girls Club, Casa Pacifica – as well as bar activities.

My mother served as one of the first (if not the very first) Presidents of the Family

Law Bar Association, and my father made at least one well-intentioned, although ultimately unsuccessful, effort to launch a Camarillo Bar Association in the 1980s. The fulfillment they got out of practicing law, and out of their many community and bar activities, no doubt has inspired me to also get involved, though I did not realize it as I was growing up. I suspect that you will hear more about Grace and Phil from me during this year.

My parents practiced together until my father’s death in 1989, but Cohen and Cohen carried on in the family tradition. Shortly after my father’s death, my sister and brother-in-law decided to re-locate back to Ventura County, and my brother- in-law, Tom Milhaupt, joined my mom in her practice. After I graduated from law school, I became the third attorney with the firm. We all worked together for a few years until Tom decided to open his own practice, and my mother began to ease into retirement and grandma duties. Tom and Melissa each practiced with different firms in the county until 2004, when they formed Milhaupt & Cohen in Camarillo. (You can call it childish, but I can’t ever resist an opportunity to remind my sister that, in practicing law with her husband, she has now fulfilled one of life’s most terrifying yet apparently unavoidable realities – she has become her mother!) My sister will likely enter my column from time to time over the year, as well.

When Grace completely retired in 1998, I took over the practice, and was a sole practitioner for about 5 years, until Bart Bleuel approached me and asked if I would be interested in joining up with Arnold Bleuel LaRochelle Mathews & Zirbel, or A-Z. I was wary at first, since my only experience in practicing law had been as a sole practitioner, and I had no real idea what joining “the firm” would be like. Needless to say, none of my fears were realized, and I have the great joy of being partners and practicing law with some of the finest people, and most skilled lawyers, that I have ever known. It’s a safe bet that you might hear a bit about my firm and my partners during my year as president, too.

In my early years of practice, I did what was given to me – estate planning, probate and some family law. I soon realized I didn’t have the constitution for a domestic practice, and over the years have become solidly specialized in all disciplines of estate planning and elder law: estate planning, probate and trust administration, Medi-Cal planning and, my ‘super’ specialty, conservatorships. If you’ve never been in the probate department before, there’s a good chance you don’t know me, since it’s just about the only courtroom I have entered over the last 12 years or so.

I thoroughly enjoy the practice of law, and working with my colleagues in the probate bar, as well as those I have had the pleasure to meet in various bar activities. We are so fortunate to be able to practice in Ventura County, and to have so many dedicated people who devote their spare time to make our Bar vibrant and productive. You will absolutely hear more about some of those people during the year.

So, that’s who I am. Why am I here and what do I hope to accomplish? Hey, I have 11 more of these things to write, you’ll have to just wait and see.

This is my last article as President and this being the final month of my term, I have turned to reflection. Traditionally, the last article is a recap of the prior year summarizing accomplishments and thanking all of those who have helped along the way. While I can (and will) do the thanking before the end of this piece, I am going to exercise presidential prerogative to deviate from the norm because this year has marked more profound transitions for me upon which to reflect. In 2009 I became a grandfather and I completed a third of a century as a lawyer. Hence, this article is directed to my grandson Miles – born July 17 – with reflections on my practice of the law.
I was predestined to become a lawyer. Unlike you, Miles, I didn’t have parents, a grandfather and even a great grandfather who were lawyers. Neither my mother nor father graduated from high school prior to my arrival. Your great-grandmother went back to school once I started kindergarten and ultimately became an elementary school teacher. Apparently I was loquacious as a young child and my mother and older brother called me the “Philadelphia Lawyer” because I talked nonstop. Probably as a result of this, I started identifying with lawyers early on and read a biography about Clarence Darrow in grade school, watched the television series Perry Mason religiously and paid special attention to things involving lawyers. I decided that I would be a lawyer in junior high school (middle school today) when my home room teacher, Mr. Aguilera, pronounced that most important, life empowering statement that all children should hear, “You can be anything that you want to be.” I believed him and made the choice.
In high school, I took speech and debate along with the regular curriculum because I knew it was part of the preparation for being an attorney. I started dating your grandmother as a freshman, drawn in part (I have to be careful here) because her father was a lawyer and I loved talking with him. By then my father was a bail bondsman and my brother was a police-
man, so I was surrounded by people in the law. However, I recall one evening in particular during high school when the decision to become a lawyer was
cemented. Two of my closest friends, John and Dennis, and I met with John’s dad, who wanted to talk to us about careers and higher education. We talked about various career paths but I distinctly remember Mr. Minteer saying, “Once you are a lawyer, you carry that around with you like a back pack. Wherever you go or whatever you do, you will always have your law degree to fall back on.” At the end of college, I toyed with going on in ancient history or archaeology. But that wasn’t part of the original plan. I was supposed to be a lawyer.
I do have to tell you that the universe of career choices available today has vastly expanded since the ‘60s and ‘70s. If you wanted a “better life” than your parents, you became a “professional.” That meant doctor, lawyer, dentist, accountant, engineer or teacher. In my community, no one talked about becoming an entrepreneur or businessman unless you were like a friend who was going to go into the family mortuary business. That option was neither available nor inviting. Education was the ticket to success. It was also a possible ticket to avoid the draft and being sent to fight in Vietnam in what had become a very unpopular war. It is impossible to even imagine today what choices will be available to you when it’s your time to choose a career. I do know that many young people who have come of age after me have been overwhelmed by the plethora of options and have found it hard to find or remain in any suitable niche.
Was it the right decision for me? I think that I can state with reasonable certainty that you would not be here (or at least in Ventura) had I chosen a different field. Your father might not have gone to law school and met your mother and, even if he had, he would not have returned to Ventura to work with me. So from that vantage alone, it was the right choice. But even that aside, I have always felt that I made the right decision. Let me tell you why.
Becoming a lawyer allowed me to move to Ventura and raise my family here. Mr. Minteer
was right. You bring your profession with you. One positive aspect of lawyers being ubiquitous is that they are indeed in every community. There are only so many ancient history professorships and, when a position opens up, wherever it is, you go there if you want the job. While law jobs may now be scarce (and they were when I graduated in 1976), government law offices still have turnover, some firms are still hiring and you can hang out your shingle as a last resort. This job has also remained intellectually challenging. I make no bones about the fact that I am still “practicing.” I learn something new on an almost daily basis. My principal practice area of employment law is in continual flux with a new hot topic every year, from disability to sexual harassment to wage and hour to who knows what next. I also enjoy my colleagues. In my opinion, little has changed in 33 years when it comes to the civility and collegiality among Ventura County practitioners. Of course we all know of the exceptions. However, one has but to deal with “out of towners” for a short time to see the difference. Practicing law has provided a good life for our family and introduced us to our closest friends. It has also afforded me the opportunity to work with your father and be a part of your life growing up.
What have I learned that I can pass on that might be of benefit to you? I am assuming that there will be plenty of opportunities in the years to come for me to tell you my view of things. But this is about being a lawyer and the “secrets” that I learned (which just might carry over into other endeavors) are these: First, be comfortable in who you are; be yourself. Everyone has a different image of The Lawyer. For the lay community, a lawyer is the “shark,” the “ambulance chaser,” the “hired gun,” the list goes on. While there are some kernels of truth in these stereotypes of lawyers, it is not you unless you become that way. Among lawyers there are different styles and approaches; there is the “hard ass,” the nice guy, the consensus builder, the jerk. Clients may want you to act one of these parts. Again, your style and approach should be reflective of who you